Next, please respond to the following situations/prompts by selecting the answer that best represents your thoughts and behaviors. Pick only one answer for each prompt. Please do not skip any items.|
If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:
a. Driven, direct, and delegating.
b. Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.
c. Patient, adaptable, and tactful.
d. Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.
When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:
a. Fight back with facts and anger.
b. Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.
c. Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.
d. Distance myself and avoid further conflict.
For me, life is most meaningful when it:
a. Is task-oriented and productive.
b. Is filled with people and purpose.
c. Is free of pressure and stress.
d. Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.
As a child, I was:
a. Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.
b. Well-behaved, caring, and/or depressed.
c. Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.
d. Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.
As an adult, I am:
a. Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.
b. Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.
c. Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.
d. Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.
As a parent, I am (or would be if I had children):
a. Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.
b. Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.
c. Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed.
d. Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.
In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:
a. Verbally stubborn about facts.
b. Concerned about others' feelings and principles.
c. Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.
d. Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.
If my friend was in trouble, I would be:
a. Protective, resourceful, and recommend solutions.
b. Concerned, empathetic, and loyal-regardless of the problem.
c. Supportive, patient, and a good listener.
d. Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.
When making decisions, I am:
a. Assertive, articulate, and logical.
b. Deliberate, precise, and cautious.
c. Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.
d. Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.
When I fail, I feel:
a. Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.
b. Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression-I dwell on it.
c. Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.
d. Embarrassed and nervous-seeking to escape the situation.
If someone crosses me:
a. I am angered, and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.
b. I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.
c. I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.
d. I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.
a. A most productive way to spend one's time.
b. A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.
c. A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.
d. A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.
In social situations, I am most often:
a. Feared by others.
b. Admired by others.
c. Protected by others.
d. Envied by others.
In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:
a. Approved of and right.
b. Understood, appreciated, and intimate.
c. Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.
d. Praised, having fun, and feeling free.
To feel alive and positive, I seek:
a. Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.
b. Security, creativity, and purpose.
c. Acceptance and safety.
d. Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.